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My Life is So Boring and Lonely: What Do I Do?

Do you ever feel like your life is stuck in a rut, with each day feeling the same and lacking excitement?

Or maybe you often find yourself feeling alone, even when surrounded by others?

The most important thing to know if you’ve heard yourself thinking “My life is so boring and lonely” is that you're not alone. Many people experience boredom and loneliness— but it’s important to address your feelings, understand why they’re happening, and learn what you need to help yourself get out of it.

Why Is My Life Boring?

To put it simply, a big reason why life can feel a bit boring sometimes is that daily routines can feel pretty monotonous! When every day feels the same, it can be easy to fall into a rut and lose interest in what you're doing.

Through this, you might feel a lack of stimulation. If you’re not engaging in activities that truly excite or challenge you, it’s totally natural to feel a little bored every now and again.

Another big reason why people might feel bored is through societal pressures and expectations. The constant pressure to be productive or successful can’t help but make many people naturally feel a little dissatisfied and bored with their current situation.

Find Your Boredom Triggers

In fact, if you are starting to feel bored, it’s important to try to find what’s causing it. Keeping a journal to track when you feel bored and what circumstances surround these feelings could help you notice patterns or certain activities that are leading to your boredom.

Cultivate New Interests

Trying new things— anything from learning a new instrument to taking up a new sport— could help you keep life exciting and open up opportunities to meet new people and expand your worldview.

Joining a book club can introduce you to new genres and authors while connecting you with like-minded individuals, and volunteering is another great way to cultivate new interests while giving back to your community.

The key is to find activities that you’ve been interested in trying but have never quite made the commitment. Or, in some cases, even challenging yourself to do something completely crazy that you’ve never done before!

Challenge Yourself

Speaking of challenging yourself, start setting some goals that truly push you out of your comfort zone, from anything from running a marathon to learning a new language.

Challenging yourself not only keeps your life exciting but also provides a sense of accomplishment and growth, showing you that you can not only set goals but hit them!

You can always set small, achievable goals and gradually work your way up to larger challenges once you’ve seen confirmation that they’re working.


Tips For Alleviating Boredom

Engage in Creative Activities

Start setting aside some time each day for a creative pursuit— putting it in your calendar to show that it’s just as important as work, a meeting, or hanging out with a friend.

Whether it's painting, writing poetry, or trying your hand at photography (whether by yourself or with a group) finding a creative outlet that resonates with you can make a significant difference in combating boredom.

You might soon suddenly find that instead of asking yourself “Why is my life so boring and lonely?” you’ll be too busy planning for your next event.

Establish a Routine

A routine provides structure and purpose to your day, helping you feel like you have a direction in your life. It's important to create a balanced routine that includes both work and leisure activities, as well as time for self-care and socializing.

When you’re carving out a routine, try to include both activities that you have to do and activities that you want to do. This can include anything from going on a daily walk in the middle of the day to spending some time with loved ones.

As we navigate life's changes, such as moving to a new city or experiencing a loss, we may find ourselves feeling isolated and disconnected from others.

Pair that with an increasing reliance on technology and social media, and it’s no wonder why 34% of young Canadians feel lonely.

It's important to recognize the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Being alone can be a time for self-reflection and growth, whereas feeling lonely often indicates a deeper need for connection

Loneliness can signal us to reconnect with ourselves and others, highlighting the importance of nurturing meaningful relationships and engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment.

Find Your Lonely Triggers

To address feelings of loneliness, it can be helpful to identify specific triggers that contribute to these feelings. What past experiences and attachment styles might be shaping your relationship with loneliness?

Knowing these triggers can help you develop strategies to manage them, like practicing mindfulness or seeking support from others.

Identify Negative Thought Patterns

Negative thought patterns, like self-criticism or rumination, can fuel feelings of loneliness. Challenge these thoughts by reframing them in a more positive light.

Cognitive-behavioural techniques, like journaling or cognitive restructuring, can help you address and change these negative patterns. Both of these methods help you have an open space, enough where you can say things like “Why is my life falling apart?” or “Why is my life so hard?” without feeling like you’ll be judged.

Address Social Isolation

Take proactive steps to build and maintain social connections by reaching out to friends and family, joining social groups or clubs, or volunteering— understanding that it’s not easy for everyone. Schedule some regular social activities so you can hold yourself accountable to get out of the house.



Tips for Alleviating Loneliness

Loneliness can feel like a heavy burden, but there are ways to lighten the load and cultivate meaningful connections.

Cultivate Meaningful Relationships

Quality over quantity is crucial when it comes to relationships (no matter what the media might be telling you). Having a few deeper friendships than many surface-level ones is much more fulfilling because deepening existing connections can alleviate loneliness.

Prioritize relationships that are supportive, understanding, and fulfilling.

Building meaningful relationships takes effort, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Be open and vulnerable, share your thoughts and feelings, and actively listen to others.

Volunteer or Join Groups

Finding volunteer opportunities or groups can be as simple as using online resources or asking friends for recommendations. By engaging in these activities, you’re not only helping others but sharing a fulfilling, shared experience with others.

Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion exercises, such as writing a letter to yourself or practicing mindfulness can help you cultivate self-compassion, which ultimately reduces feelings of loneliness and improves your overall well-being in general.



Why Is My Life So Bad? Signs That You Need a Therapist for Feeling Bored or Lonely

Thinking to yourself “my life is so boring and lonely” is a common experience, but sometimes it can indicate deeper emotional issues that may benefit from professional help.

Here are some signs that you may need to seek therapy:

1. Persistent Feelings of Emptiness

If you consistently feel empty or numb, despite efforts to alleviate these feelings, it may be beneficial to seek help from a therapist.

2. Difficulty Enjoying Activities

If things that once made you happy are now something you don’t enjoy doing, you might want to explore therapy, specifically depression therapy.

3. Changes in Appetite or Sleep Patterns

Try to track any changes in your appetite or sleep patterns, as they can both indicate underlying mental health issues like depression or anxiety.


“My Life is So Boring and Lonely:” Let Access Therapy Help You Design a Life You Love

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